It feels like we’re under pressure from the world to have everything go as well for our kids as possible. We want them to “succeed,” so we direct them on what to do and how to do …everything! What’s the problem with this? Jessica Lahey, teacher, and author of “The Gift of Failure,” explains how this parenting style actually undermines kids success and autonomy. This episode is chock full of tips on how to communicate with our kids and with their teachers!
Three big takeaways from this conversation:
1. Highly directive parenting styles undermine children’s learning
2. 40 years of research show that extrinsic motivators (reward and punishment) are “a disaster”
3. Kids should be “owning” their homework
Jessica Lahey is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. She teaches high school English and writing in a drug rehab for adolescents. Learn more at www.jessicalahey.com
With warmth and lovingkindness,
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