Earlier this week my youngest daughter lied to me, and I got angry.
In Mindful Parenting, we teach that anger is an “iceberg” emotion. It’s summer, so get cool imagining an iceberg float in the ocean: you see the tip of the iceberg at the surface, but the vast majority is under the water – or unconscious. (more…)
Do you ever get in a place where everything is driving you crazy?
At home, your child drives you crazy with the incessant repetition. Your partner isn’t appreciating you. At work, all you see are the inconsiderate choices of your co-workers. In your mind, all you hear are these critical thoughts.
And it feels crappy.
Your critical mind will tell you that it’s all THEIR fault – if only your child would listen…if only that co-worker would be less selfish…if only your partner would do something nice for you. (more…)
Rest. Relaxation. Time to slow down.
Isn’t that true?
We live in a go, go, go culture with tons of pressure to constantly do more, achieve more, and buy more.
But why are we doing all that?
The reason we do more, achieve more, and buy more is to feel happy.
To feel relaxed and content. (more…)
In the 90s Oprah had a life coach on who said something that shocked her studio audience of suburban moms.
She had asked the audience to make a list of all the priorities in their lives.
Then she asked, “Where are you on that list?”
Lots of the audience did not have themselves on the list at all.
Then she made her outrageous suggestion: (more…)
“Isn’t yelling less damaging than hitting or spanking?”
Yelling is a natural response when your kids are rude, not listening, acting crazy or treating you poorly—or in any other situation that triggers your big feelings.